I was watching Superman Returns last night and besides, ogling at Brandon Routh, I was quite saddened by the love situation between Superman and Lois Lane. After Clark Kent disappears for a few years, she gives birth to a “superkid” who needs an arsenal of medication to fend off a series of allergies and medical problems. Hmm… bad case of super versus normal genes? Anyway, she meets this sweet man (can’t recall his name) who not only regards her super-son as his own, he also helps her save the love of her life when he magically reappears on Planet Earth one fine day….hmmm, how can one find such a devoted man? Only in Hollywood, obviously!!
The point is, Lois Lane chose normal Joe versus the love of her life, Superman. Some fans were apparently upset at Lois’ decision…Obviously, such a situation is impossible in reality.
Or is it? How many of the married couples out there truly marry for love or married at the right time?
One of my closest friends told me that one can never marry the one U love, but rather marry the one U can live with. When she told me that in 2004, I was flabbergasted and asked her, then what happened to the one U loved? And a whole host of other qtns… He’s apparently still alive and her current best male friend. Gee, how can the husband take it and why did she not marry the one she loved? Turns out that she was always the woman who stood by him, turned up for functions when he needed a partner, she was essentially waiting for him to realise that she was the woman for him. He was caught up with his career as rising professional in his field and didn’t make time for love. Alas, he went overseas for a lengthy period and she entered university where she met her current husband. The night before her big day, he begged her not to marry the other man and to marry him instead! After so many years of silence??!!! What an IDIOT!!
My friend, being the loyal daughter and practical person that she is, decided to reject his offer and married the other man as planned. Sigh…so what’s the ending? She’s unhappy and unwell. The One is still very much in her life and never married. He fell sick too and now lives overseas. *SOB*
What a terrible situation – loving someone and yet unable to be with that someone who loves U back because of inaction or one bad decision? To my male friends who are reading this, don’t wait too long to express yourself to the one who makes your heart flutter, coz she won’t be hanging around for you to make up your mind and realise that U do love her. Any self-respecting woman won’t be hanging around. Don’t make the same mistake as my examples above.
So in retrospect, how many of the married people out there chose The One or settled for the one that came at the right time? I certainly wish to be in the former and never the latter situation. Some of my about-to-be married friends and married friends tell me that U never know if the one you’re marrying is the Right One and that marriage is a gamble. That sounds horrifying to me! Those who are happily married tell me that U’ll just know it when U meet the Right One because everything will fall into place? So which is the right concept? Or is there no right concept?
Gosh, love can be so complicated…was that why my friend and Lois Lane chose loyalty instead? Afterall, loyalty is a form of love. Hmmm….
I think meanwhile I’ll just keep my fingers crossed that I’ll find love and loyalty in the same package! Good luck to the rest of you! 
