I have been bugged and nagged by my bosses, family and friends….Hey, when are you getting married? Aiyah….why does society always expect the woman/gal/girl to get married and have kids? Procreate, they say, it’s your only responsibility on Earth! Or they assume you’re damn picky and want Mr Perfect…so why am I still single?
I have had my fair share of boyfriends, some shouldn’t had happened, someday I shall publish a book about them (I think some might sue me…haha!) but none gave that toe-curling or “the feeling” that most married couples talk about…
So I have listed my current 5 qualities I want in a man I would one day be proud to be with…here goes..
1. Leadership – which encompasses integrity, loyalty, maturity and a strong sense of responsibility. No need to have all the qualities of a good leader but at least I must be able to respect him (occupational hazard)!
2. Ambition/success – Must at least have the potential and pursuing his dream. Doesn’t need to be material but should at least benefit humankind. Even if his pursuits are material, he should pay back to society, be it thru donations or sponsorships to help the underprivileged help themselves. I will assist him in pursuing his success but if our working styles don’t match then I will back off.
3. Compassion – Must show respect to Mother Earth, animals and pple. No rudeness to service pple coz I have been in that industry for a couple of years myself.
4. Intelligence – No need for MENSA std, but am asking for EQ and IQ. Must be able to communicate with me. EQ in the sense that he should be culturally savvy and not be intolerant of different religions and cultures. I detest bigotry and racism!
5. Sense of humour – He should be able to laugh at himself, the world and make me laugh, be it at myself or him or anything! This is actually quite important for me! It’s subsumed under intelligence but is significant enough to be a single quality for me! 
Of course, I believe firmly that if I want to attract someone like that, I should have the same qualities myself. I’m striving towards it, believe I’m not that far off! LOL
Even if he has all the qualities but doesn’t have chemistry with me, then it’s back to the search! Tiring but not worth a broken marriage. Of course, things may change over time but I firmly believe that women should never compromise and settle for a man who doesn’t give her the toe-curling love every great woman deserves.
